Whoa. Who uses the N-word like that? We'll come to that. The video circulated among a few people and was forgotten. Three years later, it surfaced again, this time coming to the attention of a classmate, Jimmy Galligan, who filed it away. Later, after Mimi Groves had been accepted to her dream college, the University of Tennessee, and welcomed onto the cheerleading team (apparently the national champion), Galligan released the three-second video.
It was May 2020. The furor following the death of George Floyd was erupting nationwide. Groves, the Times reports, urged her Instagram followers to "protest, donate, sign a petition, rally, do something." Her first hint of the deluge to come was a comment from a stranger, saying "You have the audacity to post this, after saying the N-word." Galligan's little time bomb had exploded on Snapchat, TikTok and Twitter. Within hours, the University of Tennessee was fielding calls demanding that they rescind their acceptance of Groves. The cheerleading team acted first, dismissing her. The call from the admissions office followed within a couple of days.
Nowhere in The New York Times story is there any indication that this young woman, now 19, has ever been known as a racist. A Black friend told the Times that Groves had apologized for the video long before it became public. With the exception of that three-second video, she had no history of racist posts on social media, associations with racist organizations or complaints against her at school. Here's what Mimi Groves told the Times: "At the time, I didn't understand the severity of the word, or the history and context behind it because I was so young," adding that the slur was in "all the songs we listened to, and I'm not using that as an excuse." She said that "it honestly disgusts me that those words would come out of my mouth."
She isn't using song lyrics as an excuse, but really, couldn't the adults have had a little perspective here about a 15-year-old? Hip-hop is all the rage for teenagers the world over. So if a young girl tries to be cool by using the word that pop stars use, well, it's a mistake, but is it a crime? It takes time to learn the complex etiquette that governs racial matters. Comedian Trevor Noah suggested that rap artists release two versions of their songs. One for Black people who are allowed to use the N-word, and another for everyone else.
Rapper Kendrick Lamar paused a concert in 2018 when he invited a white fan onstage to sing "m.A.A.d city." with him. Apparently, she sang the N-word, too. "You gotta bleep one single word," he corrected her. And on they went. No harm, no foul. And that was an adult.
Jimmy Galligan seems to have no regrets. The child of a Black mother and a white father, he reports that he felt the sting of racism growing up. It's not for us to question that. But he never says that Mimi Groves was the source of it. Does that not matter? Is she to be branded for life for one stupid comment? Galligan, a freshman at Vanguard University, told the Times "with satisfaction" that he had "taught someone a lesson." Well, maybe the wrong someone?
This isn't just a story about kids behaving badly (both of them). It's much more a story of adults who've lost their bearings. Galligan should not be able to inflict such a disproportionate punishment on Groves for a years-old infraction. And he wouldn't have had the power to do so without the dereliction of the adults up and down the line. The parents, alumni, coaches and others at the University of Tennessee who issued a summary judgment on Groves — declining to speak to her teachers, coaches or friends — are betraying their duty to act with fairness and to demonstrate a grown-ups' understanding. And every adult who participated in this social media auto-da-fe is guilty as well.
The New York Times should not have memorialized this episode of youthful folly. Anyone who has ever been 18 can imagine that the day will come when Galligan deeply regrets his conduct toward Groves. We know that Groves already regrets her three-year-old slip. But now, their lapses are public property. They are not human beings, but symbols. Adults have robbed them of the chance to mature in peace — which isn't surprising, since the adults never matured themselves.
Mona Charen is policy editor of The Bulwark and host of the "Beg to Differ" podcast. Her most recent book is "Sex Matters: How Modern Feminism Lost Touch with Science, Love, and Common Sense." To read features by other Creators Syndicate writers and cartoonists, visit the Creators Syndicate webpage at www.creators.com.
