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Thursday, September 29, 2016

After letting news about her use of racist slurs swell for days, celebrity cook Paula Deen released a heavily edited video apology calling her words “hurtful.” Soon thereafter, an unedited version of the same apology appeared on the Internet.

“Your color of your skin, your religion, your sexual preference does not matter to me. It’s what’s in the heart … and my family and I try to live by that,” she said.

Though she had begged for forgiveness, The Food Network followed up the apology by announcing that they would not be renewing Deen’s contract.

Deen’s comments during a video deposition about wanting to have a “plantation” party, along with making racial jokes, set off a firestorm that led to her being a no-show for a promised appearance Friday morning on NBC’s Today show that was intended to set the record straight.

It’s difficult to imagine a worse defense of casual racism than being “born 60 years ago.” But for future reference, here is some advice on how to confront someone over their racist words.

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  • 4sanity4all

    It is not clear to me when she said these things, and that makes a difference. Years ago, in the South, where Paula Deen lived, it was the way people talked. Not nice, but not politically incorrect then. Recently, people understood that some words are too hurtful to use. So, I would need to know when she said these things if I was to make a judgment. But I will NOT be making a judgment, because it is none of my business, and I think too much has been said about this. I hear this type of language all the time in songs and movies, and no one comments on it. So I do not see why it is okay for people to profit by putting it into songs and movies, but it is a big deal if a tv cook said something similar off camera in her private life.

    • caryl

      It definitely is your business and she just said these things. We have progressed forward i hope and if you think that tv chef is not profitting from her butter braised cookbook multiple restaurant set my sons up in business-business you are sadly mistaken. Also it was in a court of law not in her private life.

      • idamag

        Don’t forget the pork fat.

        • charleo1

          My Great Grandmother, rest her soul. Whenever she would
          fry something, (she fried everything.) she would pour the fat
          renderings into a Folger’s coffee can she kept atop her wood
          cook stove. Then, use it frying eggs, and potatoes. She also
          used it to make the best flour gravy, and home made biscuits
          I ever ate. Now, after my fourth heart bypass operation..Just
          kidding. But, once upon a time, that’s how people cooked.
          They wasted nothing.

          • Franseenit

            The difference is that you most likely were doing very physical work everyday. That is the difference. I still do rather physical work daily and eat butter routinely – the margarines have been proven to be more damaging to your health. I eat eggs every day either hard cooked on salad or scrambled with sautéed spinach, broccoli, peppers with feta cheese for breakfast. She obviously doesn’t work very physical. The fact that she promotes a drug that has a questionable safety record is very disturbing.

          • charleo1

            Sure. I also was young. But, you’re right. A person can get
            away with with eating a lot of things we enjoy. But are not
            always the best for us. If we stay active. But, it’s still one of
            life’s great tragedies, that all those things I love to eat, are
            never as good for me, as the things I could easily cut out
            of my diet. Bean sprouts come to mind.

          • Irishgrammy

            My grandmother, born in Georgia, raised in Texas, did exactly the same thing. Bacon grease was her “perfume”……she died at 63. But boy she could cook….and again, they certainly didn’t have the information about such bad habits way back, that they do today, or the medications. So I guess, it’s all relative…..and timing.

      • Puck2u

        Reread the stories. It is questionable when and where the politically incorrect word was used and my not have been in any of her business life. Get real.

    • idamag

      Years ago, in the south, they had lynchings, cross burnings, and Jim Crow laws. That does not excuse it.

      • 4sanity4all

        In my mind, I do not think an ignorant comment is the same as a lynching or cross burning. She probably said a lot of things years ago that she does not say today, because times have changed. I was raised in a house full of ignorant adults, who used a slur for everyone, and because they also insulted our own group, they thought that made it okay. But as I got older, I saw that the world had changed, and I made sure to be kind in my speaking habits. And as time went on, my older relatives also curbed their language. I’m just saying, if some people use those words freely to make a buck with a movie or song, why does Paula Deen saying the same word merit all this attention?

  • Michael Kollmorgen

    I knew when I first saw her on TV that she was a racist bitch whore.

    I never watched her programs. I’m happy as a Lark that the Food Network will not renew her contract.

    • idamag

      I watched part of one of her shows once. I couldn’t stand the way she talked.

      • Michael Kollmorgen

        I know.

        That deep “Southern” accent of hers reminded me of redneck KKK-type right from the start.

        If what I thought was a stereotype, so be it. Evidently it fit. It just took her a little while to have it really show in it’s full glory.

        Yes, she probably stated what she said in private conversation. This was at first a private matter. But, once it became public, which eventually this sort of thing does come out sooner or later, she should be held totally responsible for it, as I gather her sons are also paying a heavy price in lawsuits if they are found guilty.

        Words have meaning and speaking them does have consequences. Best advice, if you can’t say it in the right way, keep yer dam mouth shut.

    • whodatbob

      Shame on you! Just because Paula speaks a different dialect then you different then the rest of us.

      • paulabflat

        problem is, her “accent” sounds fake and probably is at least exaggerated for effect.
        that there alone is being phony.

  • howa4x

    Paula Deen grew up in a segregated south and I’m sure that was the way southern people talked about Afro Americans. Problem for her is that she used the derogatory term later in life, when she should have known better

    • Mimihaha

      Oh please. There are just as many racist white people in the north as there are in the south.

      • howa4x

        Which states? The south is the birthplace of racism. The politicians you elect are the back bone of the conservative movement and are racist to the core

      • Wanda Davidson

        like Willie responded I’m surprised that any one able to profit $4216 in four weeks on the computer. did you read this webpage w­w­w.K­E­P­2.c­o­m

  • Dominick Vila

    Well, Paula is right, it is all about what is in our hearts, and she made it abundantly clear what is in hers. I reckon all the butter and sugar in her recipes is affecting her brain…

  • vippy

    Only in the USA people are racist and make a big deal of it. Racism can never be completely wiped out as people tend to associate with what they are familiar with, Latinos flock together, Germans flock together, etc. I observe same with my chickens, they flock together by their own kind. It is natural. However, we need to respect all and not say hurtful words because we are not better than the next person and it is in poor judgement when in an official capacity, it is plain dumb.

    • idamag

      It is true that people look to people like themselves for friends. However, the new theory is that it is inbred will not work. I have seen children who did not see color. Black dogs, spotted dogs, big dogs, little dogs all become friends with each other. The only time I seen discrimination in the animal kingdom is when My father-in-law’s chicken had 4 yellow chicks and one black one. The hen picked the little black chick to death. Prejudice is a chicken brain thing. Human beings should be smart enough to reason that being born a certain race is not an accomplishment.

      • ralphkr

        OK, idamag, you seem to have forgotten that dogs are truly color blind. Personally, I see racism as a part of a vital survival trait of humans. ALL of our ancestors were racists because those who were not racist did NOT survive to have progeny. It is very simple, racism is merely fear of something different and that fear is what is vital to the survival of a species.

        Consider that whenever early man encountered something different he had a choice of either killing or fleeing (fight or flight) and that instinct is very strong in modern humans. The early non-racist human would see a cave bear or lion and think, “Ooh, pretty, fuzzy, and soft!” and go up to it to cuddle with it…and that would be the end of that particular line of human development while the early racist human (the one who fears or hates anything new) would run to safety or grab a weapon to kill the cave bear or lion and that line of human development would survive to eventually become modern human.

  • Puck2u

    I have heard northern whites, people of color referring to another person of color and then pop entertainment has wonderful (not) groups of rappers with names like NWA which stands for Ni**ers with attitude. Deen carefully said in her deposition that she had used the “n” word many years back. Leave at that. She did not lie about it and did not say something like some of my best friends are African American. That is a sure tip off. Also notice that one FORMER employee is suddenly coming out of the woodwork with allegations. I always stop and ask myself why would that former employee wait to call Deen on this and not for using the “n” word. Media is running with this and blowing it way out of proportion.

    • DurdyDawg

      But isn’t that what it’s for? More circulation? The media don’t give squat what anybody does or says, what they jump on is when they can stir up those words or deeds.. Cha-ching!! They can smell the rumble of profit. As for the former employee.. simply described in two words.. Fifteen minutes.

      • 4sanity4all

        I can’t help but think that the former employee started this to extract money from the Deens, to make this go away. They probably thought that their day in court would save them from extortion. I really don’t know why this is such a big deal, but I agree with you, they are beating this story to death as click bait, to lead to money.

      • paulabflat

        the media, the media, the media. yeah. all of those awful teabagger signs? media. yes, they are media. soon as they’re finished being misspelled and trotted out for display in the hands of the easily duped, those signs become part of the media. you want the media to ignore you, stop making signs and waving them for the professional media to photograph and us to ridicule. the average person really should finally learn they aren’t qualified to do “the media.”
        it is simply that easy.

        • DurdyDawg

          Paula, Paula, Paula.. It’s not the signs (whether tee or lib) it is the media. They take the words and morph them into something that a certain group grows to despise which makes their opponents strike back at them whether they agree with the media’s depiction or not then the trolls pop up on the net and spread the hate.. Your defending the media reveals the ignorance your living your daily life in. I don’t have to be swayed by so-called experts or air wave wind bags, all I have to do is go on forums like this one and see that nearly half simply parrot what they hear from the media and with little or no personal investigation, makes they’re minds up that what they read or heard is gospel thus what ever twist the media puts on it creates the blown out hatred from those sleepers.. Take the earlier headline: “Sir Ian McKellen To Marry Patrick Stewart! “.. then when you go to it you discover the real truth. THAT’S media manipulation and if you can’t see it as such the more the pity..

          • paulabflat

            dawg, dawg, dawg. i stopped reading as soon as you insulted me.
            the media is only as good as it’s consumers and will give them what they demand or will tolerate. the media is for profit, too, just like everything else in this damned country and they’ll do whatever it takes. the citizenry mimicks their poorly crafted attention grabbing tactics and we’re worse for the wear.
            end of story.

  • Robert P. Robertson

    How many of us are Christians? How many of us believe that God Created man in his own image? Did God create races? If we are all the offspring of the man and woman that God Created, we are all the offspring of one creation. Am I right or wrong in saying that? It is One God, One Creation, One Race, right? The human race. So, if we are one race, how in hell can we be “racist” toward ourselves? We are all brothers and sisters of One Creation. I don’t know about anyone else, but that’s the way I see it. We need to study the definition of racism. It is a social scientist’s word first used by the Russian revolutionary, Leonid Trotsky, in decrying the inhumane treatment of Russian Jews by the Russian monarchy at the turn of the century. It evolved into what we see as racism today: “a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race. Racialism.” . . . And therein lies the rub— inherent superiority. Superiority is the key word because it leads into the word “supremacy”. Superiority and supremacy in terms of humanity only takes place when an individual or group of people elevates themselves above another’s humanity, and convinces him/herself or a group of like people or those who hold like sentiments of the idea that they are “different”, smarter, stronger, and more than that— chosen by God to be the manifest rulers of the earth and all it contains, including other humans. In all appearances, that’s severe mental illness because it says that that individual or group or anyone who identifies with it have negated their own humanity by sublimating themselves over and above another’s. It negates humanity period. That is severe mental illness. The individuals who happen to do this more than any others in the world are people who describe themselves as “whites” in America. The history of America is dripping in the blood caused by “white supremacy”. At one point in history, Senator Charles Sumner, the renowned abolitionist and a “white man” himself, attempted to legislate a law prohibiting anyone from using the term “white” to describe their ethnicity. He was called “crazy”, “a candidate for the insane asylum”, but he was correct, because it was a white supremacist, a “slave power” Democrat, who nearly beat him to death on the floor of the Senate. I said all of this to say that our designation of racism is solely misplaced on a Chrisitan or social perspective. The true enemy is white supremacy, something that Republicunt/neo-Confederate Tea Bags and too many “white” people hold close to their rotten hearts.

    • Mimihaha

      Wow you are an asshole.

      • Robert P. Robertson

        Thankee, ya good ol’ white supremacist. Ya betta redneckonize, honey boo-boo! Mama Joon n’ Papa B’ar got hitched, n’ they roast they dawg fo’ they hitchin’ concepshun. Was you thar?