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Wednesday, September 28, 2016

Weekend Reader: Outlaw Marriages: The Hidden Histories Of Fifteen Extraordinary Same-Sex Couples

On Thursday, the state of Illinois found the perfect way to celebrate Valentine’s Day — passing a bill to legalize same-sex marriage. For the first time in American history, same-sex couples in 10 states will now be able to marry those they love.

A recent book by Rodger Streitmatter details the stories of 15 powerful same-sex couples. The following is excerpted from this book, which you can purchase here.

Walt Whitman & Peter Doyle, 1865-1892: Revolutionizing American Poetry

Communicating Their Love In Letters

Whitman and Doyle began writing to each other in 1868, the first time they were apart after beginning their outlaw marriage. The men were separated because Whitman visited his family in New York, while “Pete the Great” had to stay in Washington to work. Their correspondence continued, off and on, whenever they were apart, for almost two decades.

In the first surviving letter, Doyle exclaimed, “I could not resist the inclination to write to you this morning it seems more than a week since I saw you.” Whitman then responded, “I think of you very often, dearest comrade—I find it first rate to think of you, Pete, & to know that you are there, all right, & that I shall return, & we will be together again.”

In the six weeks that the men were apart that first time, Doyle wrote at least seven letters and Whitman wrote at least 11.

During that period as well as during later ones, Whitman routinely began his letters with the words “My darling” and ended them with phrases such as “Love to you, my dearest boy” or “So long, dear Pete–& my love to you as always.” Doyle ended his letters by writing “Pete the Great” or “Pete X X,” using the X’s to represent the kisses he sent his partner.

Outlaw Marriages by Rodger Streitmatter, © 2012 by Rodger Streitmatter. Reprinted by permission of Beacon Press, Boston.

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  • billbear1961

    I love a good romance, especially between two chaps bucking a hateful system!

    And a hundred years ago—and longer—that really took GUTS!

  • Claude Jacques Bonhomme

    I am inspired by the histories of loving committed couples who lived their loves despite the laws that put them in physical and legal jeopardy. Over the years, these have included inter-racial couples, inter-ethnic couples, inter-religious couples and same-sex couples. Most of those barriers have fallen, and now an increasing number of jurisdictions offer equal protection and recognition of same sex marriage before the law.

    I am glad that my 25+ years same sex relationship has been recognized as a marriage since 2005, but I won’t be fully content until it receives protection and recognition before US federal law and institutions. I also hope it will be recognized and protected before the law at the state level everywhere across the US. To crown it all, I look forward to the day when discrimination in employment and housing, as well as all other aspects of our lives, simply because of sexual orientation and/or gender identity, is made illegal nationwide across the US.